It’s been a while since I posted an update on Project Happiness so my apologies for not keeping it up to date.
Truth is, happiness isn’t something that just comes and stays forever. It’s something you have to work on every single day. So even after I’ve ‘cracked the code’ I’ve still got work to do.
So since the last update I have punished myself for not losing any weight, I have considered quitting my job and we had our worlds turned upside down when Nick’s dad was involved in an accident (he is ok and recovering well however I do not feel this is the place to go into more detail).
Things took a bit of a nose dive and at certain points things were really tough. What that did mean though, is that family pulled together and I was reminded of how strong my relationship with Nick is.
One thing I have learned is that life is made up of hundreds, if not thousands, of little tiny moments every day. It’s how we choose to capture those moments that determines our happiness.
For example, until recently I used to let every minor inconvenience get to me and I would be so angry. Nick suggested I make it one of my resolutions to not react over little things and I cannot believe the affect this tiny tweak to my outlook has had on my happiness.
I now know to savour each and every little moment throughout the day and put them into one of two categories after answering this:
“Did it make me happy?”
Yes – if that last second made me smile or brought some value to my life then great. Life has so many amazing moments that we often forget about, so savour the moment!
No – if that teeny, tiny moment did not make me happy, is it something I can learn from? If not, then let it go. It’s not these moments we want to remember as this only casts a shadow on our happiness.
Today for example, we got held up in traffic on our way home and set us back over an hour. Thankfully I wasn’t driving but still, this usually would have wound me up and I would have bickered with Nick. Instead of my memory of today only being stuck in a mildly inconvenient traffic jam, I have instead chosen to focus of the happy moments (which in fairness was the entire rest of the day).
Today I choose to remember the moment Nick kissed me on the forehead whilst we were queueing in one of the shops. I remember the moment he pushed me into the Lindt shop as, even though I’m ‘trying to be good’, he knew I’d be annoyed if I didn’t buy any chocolate. And I’m remembering the moments we chatted about our future.
This seems so simple, right?!
Now I know that it’s not always possible to shrug off the negativities from each day and suddenly that will make everyone happy. But surely if we can do this most of the time, or even some of the time, it’s going to make a difference?
I’m no longer beating myself up about my weight loss as I know I will get there eventually.
I am no longer looking to leave my job as I know things aren’t as bad as the worst days and I actually like my job.
I no longer take for granted the tiny, seemingly insignificant moments of each and every day as they really are the only moments that matter in the end.