When I was young, throughout my teens and even into my adult life my Nan always told me to follow my head.
She taught me that I can do anything. That all my dreams are within my reach if I work hard enough for them. As long as I was sensible and worked smart. She’d say “You take after me, a hard worker. You’ll be alright.”
For a long time I believed that things happened the way they did because of fate, luck, God, or whatever you want to call it. But that’s not true. Yes, I still believe in those things, but I have learned that every single aspect of my life is controlled by me.
Only I am capable of creating the life that I want.
So as I’ve shared previously, I’m on the journey of doing just that. But it did make me wonder how many times we put something down to luck or chance, when it was really us all along.
Take looking for a new job as an example. I might apply for a few jobs, get invited to interview for one but not get offered it. Is that because I was just unlucky? Maybe someone else got lucky instead. Is ‘luck’ really the only thing to conclude why I wasn’t successful? I don’t think so.
By changing my mindset towards this type of thing, I’ve learned to accept that maybe I just wasn’t as prepared as I could have been. Maybe another candidate was more qualified or had more experience. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I wasn’t capable or worthy of getting that job, it just means I will have work a bit harder next time.
So I’ll go away and I’ll practice. I’ll learn something new. Maybe I’ll take an online course or read a book.
Or when I think of weight loss journey (something I have been working on my whole adult life)…
I used to give every excuse as to why I wasn’t losing weight; I’m too busy, this diet doesn’t work for me, I’m just ‘big-boned’. COME ONE *insert eye roll emoji*
I’m still definitely not on the straight and narrow, but I am now happy to admit that it’s no one’s fault but my own. I am fully aware of the choices I make to eat or not eat certain foods and I accept the consequences of said choices each week when I step on the scales.
When I’ve regained focus I’ll try cooking some new meals or try a new exercise routine.
In a world where we are so quick to blame something/someone else for absolutely everything, it’s so important to first of all to look within ourselves.
We have the entire world at our fingertips and nothing is out of reach. But no one is going to come along and bring our dreams to us. No matter how big or small those dreams may be, we have to set our minds to it and work towards it. Every single day.
Make a plan. Write it down. Say it out loud. And don’t give up until you get it.